It is evident in the article we read that the psychologists thought marriage is self fulfilling and an expansion on ones self. However, I tend to disagree. I believe marriage is self satisfying as well as self sacrificing. While married, or even in a serious relationship, one learns new information every day about their significant other. They may also learn new strategies or a new way at looking at something - from a different perspective. In addition to learning and expanding one's own qualities, one also cares for their partner and will put them in front of himself or herself. They care about one another's feelings and values. Sometimes, if one really wants to make the other happy, a sacrifice has to be made. I believe marriage and even dating includes self expansion as well as self sacrifice. As for me, relationships with friends, including boys is very important. I need to be friends with a person and need to know them fairly well before anything significant or serious happens. I hope to find a man who is very similar to me. It does not take much for me to open up, but it takes a while and an awesome person to be serious with. I want someone who can make me laugh and is active. I am not sure who it is - I could be completely wrong. After all, some people say opposites attract! I believe my values do not reflect modern society. In today's world, it is very casual and laid back. Sometimes couples move too fast - and I am the complete opposite. I need to know the person before I can commit to a relationship. I do not believe I am a picky person - I just feel that when I meet the right person, my instincts and intuition will tell me it is time for a relationship.
Hey Mad! I totally agree that marriage has positive effects on both people in the relationship, and therefore is self-fulfilling as well as self-sacrificing. People definitely gain knowledge and insight about themselves while in a relationship, not just about their partner.
ReplyDeleteI also feel the same way about my personal relationships. Before I can be committed to someone, I have to spend the time to get to know them. I have to trust them and know the kind of person they are, rather than taking a chance with a stranger. Frankly, I don't understand the idea of "love at first sight." How can I love a person I don't even know? Anyways, I enjoyed your reflection! Bye!
I agree that friendship is very important to a relationship. I also feel that successful relationships must be both self satisfying and self sacrificing. They are both essential to grow as a couple and as a person
ReplyDeleteMaddie, Thanks for your thoughts and insights. Your openness to the unexpected is very important and mature! Though you might think you know what is right and best for you, life (and God) have a way of often surprising us. Continue to stay open to all that life can bring you! Mrs. Kennedy
ReplyDeleteGood point Maddie! I agree that there is definitely a way to bring together both self happiness along with the happiness of both individuals in the relationship. In a healthy marriage, there is no reason that they should be divided.
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